After an emotional affair, the way you deal with your relationship in the coming days will determine how the memories affect you for years to come. You can't just ignore how you feel, because even if you could rid yourselves of all the physical objects and locations that remind you of what happened, you'll still have to deal with questions from peers, friends and family members who are only concerned about your mental well-being, not to mention the changed relationship you're now in. Remember these key points if you want to feel good about any decision you make from here on out.
Don't Take it Personally
Some would say this is easier said than done, but it's actually very simple. Your spouse's decision to have an emotional affair had nothing to do with you, and every thing to do with them fulfilling their own desires. The more you think about why they did this "to you" the more you allow them to control your future emotional path in a negative way, so concentrate on your own feelings.
Take Time for Yourself Before You Try to Salvage Things
After an emotional affair is over, it's still hard to get past the snag in your relationship healthily. What you deserve most of all in such a stressful time is a chance to work things out in your own mind and heart. You need to take time to forget about the object of your negative feelings and determine just how you feel before you can say anything that will help you make progress. If all you can come up with is "I'm angry," it's going to be pretty hard to work to any resolution, and if this means you need to spend some time apart to figure things out, don't hesitate to stay with a friend or family as long as you must.
Remember, the most essential element when recovering after an emotional affair is to make sure you don't let your outlook on things bring you down more than events already have. You can only recover from negative feelings by evaluating your emotions in your own time and on your own terms.